Going through a breakup can be similar to experiencing a death. While that sounds extreme, it is the death of a large part of your life and it’s important to allow yourself some time to grieve. Below are some ideas for helping yourself get through a break up in a more positive way.
Finding something to focus on that will better yourself can be a wonderful addition to your life when you’re recovering from a break up. By developing a daily practice, you will be able to give your attention to that and work towards truly feeling better and healing.
For a lot of people it can be hard to ask for help. But if you have it in you, getting help while you’re healing from a break up can really move you forward. A life coach, for example, can guide you towards feeling powerful and strong much sooner than you might be able to on your own. Having someone to work with you and guide you through recovery and moving forward and be the biggest gift you give yourself.
Is there something that you would like to improve within yourself? You may have to dig a bit deep to find what it is, but most of us can recognize traits or habits that we’d like to work on. Work on improving yourself so that you can go into the next relationship as an improved version of yourself.
While it may be painful to look back at your relationship and why it possibly didn’t work out, there are surely some lessons that can be learned. One of the biggest takeaways from a break up can be looking at what you want to be a non-negotiable when you go into your next relationship. With each relationship we learn a bit more about ourselves and what we are willing, or able, to work with. Consider your past relationship and note if there are any traits or things that are nonnegotiables to keep in mind for your next relationship.
Tips on what to do after break up:
1. Workout: Getting in some exercise will not only make you feel better, it will help you to look your best as well.
2. Schedule plans with friends: Having the support of friends to either talk about the break up or, if you prefer, to distract you from the break up can be helpful.
3. Avoid social media bashing: When upset it can be tempting to bash your ex on social media, but it truly won’t do you any good and will make you look and feel worse in the end.
Break ups are a difficult time, even when we see them coming and know in our hearts that it’s for the best. It’s ok to take the time to allow yourself to feel everything, but it’s also important to make plans to move yourself forward once you’re done grieving.
“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.” – David Byrne